Last month I was asked to be profiled in Business Chicks magazine, and was asked to answer a range of questions about myself, my business and my views on the world.
One of the questions was “Do I believe women can have it all?” This one made me think quite a bit, and I am not sure I answered it quite right.
In the interview I said I believe we already have it all, we just do not give ourselves credit.
We spend more time wondering if we can have it all and what it would take to achieve what we want than appreciating what we already have and who we already are.
Fundraiser and philanthropist Lynne Twist sums this up beautifully in her book The Soul of Money.
She describes the concept of sufficiency.
What is enough? Each of us determines that for ourselves, but very rarely do we let ourselves have that experience. What is that point at which we’re fulfilled, where we have everything we want and need and nothing in excess? Very few of us can recall moments in life when we have felt like that…. We mostly breeze right past the point of enough as if it is not even there. There comes a point where having more than we need becomes a burden….The experience we crave of being fulfilled in life cannot be found in the chase for fulfilment or the chase for more of anything.
So rather than wondering if we have it all and how can we get more, maybe we should consider do we have enough and how can we share what we have more.
Acts of kindness and altruism are proven to lift our wellbeing, making us feel better.
So give yourself a break from thinking about what you want this year for a little while, and ask yourself what you can give to make the world a better place.