The hidden costs of focusing on the urgent and not the important
Author: Judith Bowtell | Date: 16/12/2019 | Categories:
Career Development, Coaching, Decision Making, Intuition, Leadership, Leading in crisis, Mindfulness
I recently stayed with my sister and my 18 year old niece (M), and offered to help them throw out some clothes that no longer "brought joy".
We started out making good progress, teaching the process of appreciating what you have and letting go of what no longer "serves" you.
The session was a bit derailed by a little family politics: me encouraging M. to keep some things that annoyed her mum; her mum overruling a few decisions; and a side campaign by M, to hide a few pieces in her older sister's wardrobe.
Whilst a healthy family dynamic has room for fun and games, there can be a shadow side of power and control: undermining my sister's influence; re-asserting parental values; sneaking t-shirts into someone else's drawer.
And I did feel a bit of guilt afterwards that what should have been a learning experience for M. got a bit overwritten by her mum's and my agendas.
The same can happen in our workplaces when we interrupt someone's learning or development opportunity for our own purposes or gain. Read more...